Stand in your power
There’s such a thing as “little old me” syndrome that tries to pass as endearing, but is in fact unseemly.
You’ve seen it. Perhaps you’ve even had it.
It’s the false and ironically selfish humility of “I have little to offer the world.” It’s almost always revealed by a four-letter word, which is the most limiting word in the English language:
“I’m just a mom.”
“I’m just a secretary.”
“I’m just a regular citizen.”
If you’ve ever had this syndrome, please understand that my intention here is to uplift and encourage you.
Having said that, I invite you to seriously consider how your Father feels when you speak that way about yourself.
With sincere love, I submit to you that devaluing yourself is a slight to your Creator and the awesome power you carry within you as His child.
How do you feel when your children badmouth themselves? My heart aches every time my precious, gorgeous, eight-year-old Libby May says she hates her freckles. I can’t imagine her without her freckles; they make her shine, she would not be my dearest Libby May without them. I yearn for her to see herself as I see her.
That’s how God feels, compounded by His infinite, unconditional love, every time you “just” yourself.
“Just,” nothing. You are a child of the Creator of the Universe.
After creating the vast oceans, majestic mountains, fathomless canyons, breathtaking sunsets, amazing animals — every miraculous organism and wondrous work in this awe-inspiring world — he created YOU and said, “I did this all for you. You are my crowning creation. I adore you. I will do anything in my power for you.”
In his life-changing book, The Character of Jesus (which I can’t recommend highly enough), clergyman Charles Edward Jefferson, comparing the true humility of our Savior to our own false humility, pulls no punches:
“Much of the so-called humility of the world is not humility at all. It is a slimy, crawling, despicable, snaky thing, a compound of vanity and falsehood.
“People who say they do not amount to anything, they cannot do anything, they have no talent, they do not know anything — never speak the truth. They do not try to speak the truth, they know they are not speaking their truth. It is their egotism which is masquerading under the form of humility.
“There is no vainer form of vanity than just that vanity which apes humility.”
This strong, uncompromising language may seem like adding insult to injury to people who have legitimate self-esteem issues. But think it through, open yourself up to the truth, however painful.
The dejected self-loather is as egotistical as the pompous narcissist; in both cases they’re focusing on themselves. It’s selfishness, pure and simple.
And as Ken Blanchard wisely pointed out,
“Humble people don’t think less of themselves, they just think about themselves less.”
Ironically, it is by forgetting about yourself and focusing on how you can serve others that your value is revealed, your greatness unleashed.
Maybe you haven’t accomplished much in your life yet. Maybe you are struggling to find your purpose and your voice.
Big deal. Join the club. Lift your eyes from the ground. Find someone to serve.
Maybe you don’t have a lot to offer right now. Develop your gifts by serving others and your value to the world will increase exponentially.
Every time you’re asked to speak and you feel afraid because you don’t feel like you have anything important to say, every time you feel a prompting to step up and do something big but you feel unworthy, drill this into your lizard brain: “It’s not about me.”
Get over yourself. To clarify, get over your ego-self.
Get in tune with your Divine Self. Stand in your power as a son or daughter of God. Believe it. Own it. Live it.
Feel God’s royal blood coursing through your veins. Hear His voice of encouragement. See yourself as He sees you. Think of his sons and daughters, your brothers and sisters, who desperately need your light.
“Let your light so shine,” Christ commanded — and note the implicit assumption that you do, indeed, have a light to shine. Not, “Be ashamed that your light is so small.” That’s Lucifer speaking.
I know you’ve read this quote by Marianne Williamson before. I want you to read it again:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
“We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
You have a light inside you. You tarnish and dim it every time you devalue yourself.
There are brothers and sisters who need your help. You leave them stranded by focusing on yourself.
You have a limitless power within you. Now forget yourself and use it.