A success secret revealed by a quality woman

by | Feb 27, 2012

As my amazing wife, Queen Karina, and the kids prepared for their weekly trip to the library, they discovered they were missing several borrowed CDs.

They ransacked the house for several hours. Nothing turned up.

She took them to the library, where she was informed that the CDs would cost $100 to replace.

She came home and never said a word about it to me. She gathered the children, they crafted a plan.

I came downstairs from my home office for lunch and found her making kettle corn. She said I couldn’t eat any because it was for a project.

I thought nothing of it, finished my lunch, and resumed work.

Late that afternoon she arrived home with the children and announced they had earned $5.

“$5 for what?” I asked.

“To pay back our $100 library fee,” she explained.

She had divided the kettle corn into small paper bags and had taken our children with her to sell them door-to-door in our neighborhood for fifty cents a bag.

And I fell in love all over again.

They were still at it, selling baked goods door-to-door, a week later.

Here’s the thing: We didn’t need the money. We were doing just fine.

Such a hefty library fee is annoying, to be sure. There are plenty of other things we’d rather spend $100 on. But she could have just paid the fine from our checking account and moved on.

But she stepped up and took responsibility — and in the process taught our children invaluable lessons that I will ensure they remember forever.

No pride. No whining. No finger-pointing. No wasting energy looking back. No spreading of negative energy from the frustration.

That, my friend, is a quality woman. A damn fine woman, if you don’t mind my saying so. A woman that makes me want to be a better man. A woman to walk and work with side-by-side through eternity.

There are plenty of universal lessons to be drawn from this story: how to be a producer, how to teach children responsibility, how to respond to setbacks, how your example in seemingly insignificant moments makes a profound difference, etc.

But here’s the lesson I want to focus on: We can read hundreds of books about living with intention, excellence, and inspiration. We can study and apply the science of harnessing subconscious power to achieve goals. We can stuff our heads full of content on vision, integrity, tenacity, goal-setting and planning, following our bliss.

But the way we cultivate our relationships with our spouses determines our success far more than any of those things combined.

After 20 years of research spanning two thousand years of history and analyzing hundreds of the most successful men, in Think and Grow Rich Napoleon Hill detailed the common threads he discovered that led to their success.

Among other principles, he discovered that:

“The pages of history are filled with the records of great leaders whose achievements may be traced directly to the influence of women who aroused the creative faculties of their minds…

“…every great leader, whom [Hill] had the privilege of analyzing, was a man whose achievements were largely inspired by a woman…”

Of course, this applies to great women being inspired by quality husbands as well.

Now here’s the real lesson: You want a spouse that still makes you weak in the knees, proud in the heart, and watery in the eyes after fifty years of marriage? A quality spouse who makes you fall head-over-heels in love daily?

Be that kind of a spouse. Like my Queen is to me.

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